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White Fragility

Posted on July 6, 2020July 6, 2020 by Andi

Most of the time I send my followers on Instagram over to my book page, @minihaysreads, to hear about a book. This book was too important to hope people would go over there and read about it. So I posted it in both places this time.

Read this book! To all my white friends, you must read this. It was so well written, relatable and eye opening. It hurt to read sometimes because it was uncomfortable and yet so important.

Reading this made me feel angry and embarrassed of the way whites have come to control everything. The things we white people take for granted is so shameful and sad. But this book was so helpful and educational and was able to guide me in many ways on how to approach various situations.

Buy this book. Get it from the library. Listen to the audiobook. Buy two copies and give one to a friend. Just find a way to get a copy of this and read it. I will loan you my copy! Read this book if you have anyone of color in your life you care about. Read this book if you don’t know one single person of color. We can’t stop learning and working to be better. And I promise this isn’t the last you are going to hear me talk about this book.

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I’d Rather Be Reading

Posted on May 26, 2020 by Andi

I have been a reading as much as I can during quarantine. I always wish I had read more or faster, but I’m still happy to be finding time to read in whatever form I can get right now. But I have been in a bit of a slump. The kind of slump where I am not loving any of the books I read.

There have been plenty of books that I have liked or enjoyed or even would have loved at a different time in life, but not many have been cherished. I don’t expect to love every book, but nothing was exciting me. Then I read I’d Rather Be Reading by Anne Bogel. She has a website called Modern Mrs. Darcy and she has a bunch of reading lists and reading-related content. She also has an instagram page I follow called What Should I Read Next.

This book was exactly what I needed right now. It was about reading (obviously) and I was so connected to it. It talked about having ebbs and flows with your reading and how life can make a difference in your reading choices and feelings toward books. It felt like a confirmation to my reading life right now.

Quick side story: I was listening to this while mowing the lawn and was loving it. Then it suddenly stopped playing. Sometimes a library book I am reading with need the app refreshed and then will work fine. That didn’t work. Hmm. Wait. WHERE IS MY BOOK? It returned it…weeks early. I was so sad. So I started another book while I was mowing and then when I was done, I went inside and bought it on my kindle and continued reading. I needed to know what else she had to say!

Back on track now. This book talked about reading styles, books in general, the reason you should read the acknowledgements at the end of the book, finding a book twin, that there are probably other readers just like you and so much more.

Going along with being in a reading slump, I’m not the kind of person who will easily give up on a book if I don’t love it. I am always hopeful that the ending will turn the book around for me. But I have stopped reading a couple books recently. It just wasn’t fulfilling me and I didn’t want to spend more of my precious reading time on something that wasn’t making me happy or I felt like I HAD to finish it. You never HAVE to finish a book you are reading for fun! I am learning this is ok. It probably goes hand in hand with me being a pleaser. I never like to say I didn’t like a book because I feel like it will hurt someone’s feelings. I’m really trying to get over that and embrace what I enjoy reading and stick up for my decisions.

I may have even found a book twin! Or at least something very close to that. I came across this wonderful lady via another person on social media. I think she might have sent me a comment on someone else’s post about something. But we have chatted and connected. When I mentioned to her that maybe she was my book twin, she told me she was reading THIS EXACT BOOK right now. I mean, if that doesn’t scream “meant to be” I don’t know what does!

I am so thankful I found this book at this time. It rekindled my desire to read and let me allow myself to not feel guilty about what I am reading and how I am feeling about it. Thank you, Anne! I can’t wait to read more of your books!

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The Apartment

Posted on May 12, 2020May 12, 2020 by Andi

I received an ARC (Advanced Reader’s Copy) of The Apartment by K. L. Slater through NetGalley. I am so thankful to have found this community and the ability to read new books. I haven’t read any of her books, but I might look into some of them after this one. I was intrigued by the story and really liked the premise with the creepy factor.

Some of my cons about the book: I found some of the English language (it was set in London) a little distracting for me because I didn’t always know what she was talking about. I also found a number of typos throughout the book. Getting past those minor things, I had a hard time with the writing in general. It felt like a first book or a first attempt at someone writing a novel. It felt scattered and thrown together and not fully thought out. The main character was a little annoying and I felt myself getting angry with her at various times. I thought there was a little too much unrelated backstory about Freya when more time could have been spent better in other ways.

In a section for cons, but not: the ending fell short for me. For Brenna to say she did some looking into her family history and then not tell us what that was!? I was a little upset. And to through in some family lineage from inside Adder House, but not expand on who was related to whom and how was a little annoying. So while these things were annoying, it might have been fun for some to try to place lineage or come up with their own ideas on who was related to whom and how. But for me, if it was talked about, as a reader I enjoy knowing what the author was thinking when alluding to something instead of having me guess.

Pros: I thought this book was a lot of fun and creepy. I could picture Freya and Skye going through the various situations and I really was rooting for them. I kept hoping it would work out and you could never really tell who was the good guy or bad guy throughout the book. Everyone was a little off and it could have been anyone. I liked the twists at the end and liked how they went ahead to tell how they were doing after the incident (albeit the few things I thought were missing). I loved the creepy elements and I didn’t want to put it down. I was eager to see how it ended. I also really liked the short chapters and that it was a quick, fun read.

I don’t know that I would recommend this book to just anyone. If you are looking for a book to make your skin crawl with anger at times and you like a fun twist, this is for you. If you aren’t into psych thrillers and main characters who are a little frustrating at times, this might not be for you.

I gave this one ⭐️⭐️⭐️ because I was still having a hard time with the ending and a bit of the storyline at first. I did really enjoy the story overall, I just think some parts could have been done a little better. But for a mindless, quick, psych thriller, I really couldn’t put it down and was excited to see what happened at the end. I am looking forward to trying out more of her books in the future.

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Pretty Things

Posted on May 2, 2020May 2, 2020 by Andi

Fairly recently, I started reviewing book on NetGalley. I have loved getting Advanced Readers Copies (ARC) of books and getting to give my honest reviews. I am so glad that an online friend (thanks Caitlin for the recommendation) told me about NetGalley. She also read Pretty Things and after reading her review, I immediately got myself on the list to read it, too.

And I am so glad that I did! I loved this book. It felt real. In the realistic sense. It talked about things that are relevant now and I think it was very relatable. I found the talk about Instagram and how one of the characters needs the approval of her followers to be spot on and relatable. I don’t have many followers, but I always get excited when someone likes what I posted (this could be a whole different blog post!).

Janelle Brown did an amazing job with this book. I really enjoyed the way it was written between the two main female characters. There was some overlap with their stories to see how each handled a particular situation and I couldn’t get enough of the way it was done. The back and forth of the characters was perfectly executed and I loved all the twists and turns.

I also found myself going back and forth throughout the book debating which character I liked and which one I didn’t. It takes a brilliant author to weave something together so seamlessly where you know what will happen, yet you don’t. It was so good.

The story was plausible (which I always things makes a psychological book a little more twisted and fun when you can picture it actually happening). The characters were lovable and easy to despise.

If you are looking for a book to buy this year (or month or week or day), buy this one. I think it will be one you’ll recommend to friends and family and give as gifts.

What are some great books you’ve been loving lately?

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Brave, Not Perfect

Posted on January 11, 2020January 24, 2020 by Andi

I read this beautiful book by Reshma Saujani a while ago and I loved it so much. I listened to the book, and then bought the kindle book. It was such a wonderful book about how important it is for women to work on bravery instead of striving for perfection. To tackle some of the hard things they are afraid to do and just be brave enough to try.

Saujani also founded the Girls Who Code movement. She helps get girls interested in and involved in programming and they want to “change the image of what a programmer looks like and does.” There are also some great young chapter books written by them as well. And I think this is important because the younger you can get programming and coding into the minds of younger children, the earlier they will be able to learn how cool it is! Here is a summary of the book from Amazon:

Imagine if you lived without the fear of not being good enough. If you didn’t care how your life looked on Instagram. If you could let go of the guilt and stop beating yourself up for making human mistakes. Imagine if, in every decision you faced, you took the bolder path?

As women, too many of us feel crushed under the weight of our own expectations. We run ourselves ragged trying to please everyone, pass up opportunities that scare us, and avoid rejection at all costs.

There’s a reason we act this way, Saujani says. As girls, we were taught to play it safe. Well-meaning parents and teachers praised us for being quiet and polite, urged us to be careful so we didn’t get hurt, and steered us to activities at which we could shine. As a result, we grew up to be women who are afraid to fail. 

It’s time to stop letting our fears drown out our dreams and narrow our world, along with our chance at happiness.

By choosing bravery over perfection, we can find the power to claim our voice, to leave behind what makes us unhappy, and to go for the things we genuinely, passionately want. Perfection may set us on a path that feels safe, but bravery leads us to the one we’re authentically meant to follow. In Brave, Not Perfect, Saujani shares powerful insights and practices to help us let go of our need for perfection and make bravery a lifelong habit. By being brave, not perfect, we can all become the authors of our best and most joyful life.

Reshma also did a TED talk as well and it was a good summary of the topics she touches on in her book. The link to the TED talk is below.

Her book and her message is one that can be universal and not just applicable to women in technology. I think that overall, women are starting to bridge the gender gap and make themselves more of a staple and asset in many other forms of business, not just technology.

Let me know if you end up reading or have read this book already. I would love to hear your thoughts on the book and her message in general.

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2019 Reading Challenge

Posted on January 10, 2020January 10, 2020 by Andi

I was quite proud of my reading challenge through GoodReads this year. I tackled lots of great books (and some I didn’t love) and was able to complete 59/50 books. I should mention that I listen to a lot of audiobooks and thus why I am able to complete so many books! I have included statistics from GoodReads as well as all the books I read below.

So there you have it. It is only the 10th of the month, and I have almost finished 4 books already. (Two of them were already about 1.2 done when I started the year, but still!) I am hoping I can get a bunch of books I didn’t get to read this year. As well as a bunch of books for book club.

Have you read any great books in 2019 (or really whenever) that I should add to my to-read list? Anything you read that I should avoid or not waste my time on? Do you set reading goals for yourself on GoodReads, too? What is your goal?

Happy reading to you in 2020!

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2018 Reading Challenge

Posted on January 8, 2019January 8, 2019 by Andi

On Goodreads.com, you can set a reading goal for yourself for the year. In 2018, my goal was 50 books. I finished 53 books in 2018. Here are the 53 books I finished this year.

Part of this accomplishment was due to reading (or listening to) a bunch of audiobooks. I have found that I love listening to books and I can get a book done much more quickly this way. I will listen to books when I’m driving, waiting in the car, cooking dinner, doing dishes, doing laundry, vacuuming, running…and I like to listen to them fast! 2X is my speed (unless the person reading the book has a strong accent that is hard to follow).

For my 2019 goal, I am sticking with 50 books. I have a bunch of books on my hold lists already and I can’t wait to dive in. My first couple books are going to be long ones, so it won’t look like much progress is being made at first.

What is your Goodreads reading goal for 2019 or what would it be if you were to make one? Are there any books you are anxiously waiting to read in 2019?

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Books I Wanted to Love, But Didn’t

Posted on March 7, 2017October 23, 2018 by Andi

I’ve been trying to find more time to read over the last year or so. It helps me keep my sanity and I love getting lost in a book. I also really love recommending books to friends and fellow love-to-readers. These three just didn’t do anything special for me. You may love them, but they weren’t at the top of my list.

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The Woman in Cabin 10 was one of those books that I saw all over the place. People were talking about it and loved it. I was deep into my most recent painting spree and decided I’d give it a listen. Here’s what the book is about.

In this tightly wound, enthralling story reminiscent of Agatha Christie’s works, Lo Blacklock, a journalist who writes for a travel magazine, has just been given the assignment of a lifetime: a week on a luxury cruise with only a handful of cabins. The sky is clear, the waters calm, and the veneered, select guests jovial as the exclusive cruise ship, the Aurora, begins her voyage in the picturesque North Sea. At first, Lo’s stay is nothing but pleasant: the cabins are plush, the dinner parties are sparkling, and the guests are elegant. But as the week wears on, frigid winds whip the deck, gray skies fall, and Lo witnesses what she can only describe as a dark and terrifying nightmare: a woman being thrown overboard. The problem? All passengers remain accounted for—and so, the ship sails on as if nothing has happened, despite Lo’s desperate attempts to convey that something (or someone) has gone terribly, terribly wrong…

With surprising twists, spine-tingling turns, and a setting that proves as uncomfortably claustrophobic as it is eerily beautiful, Ruth Ware offers up another taut and intense read in The Woman in Cabin 10—one that will leave even the most sure-footed reader restlessly uneasy long after the last page is turned.

Lo wasn’t an overly likeable character in my mind. I thought the writing was ok (and I might look into her other book(s) one day, but this book felt like it just dragged on and on. There were a lot of twists and turns and I honestly can’t pinpoint why I didn’t like this book. There just wasn’t anything overly compelling about it to me. Maybe the whole set at sea thing was unique or a big draw for people. I just didn’t feel like there was anything overly remarkable or worthy of recommending it to everyone I see like I have done with other books.

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Present Over Perfect is a book I have heard so many people posting about and have loved every page of it. This was not the case for me. I have a few ideas why, but here’s what the book is about.

A few years ago, I found myself exhausted and isolated, my soul and body sick. I was tired of being tired, burned out on busy. And, it seemed almost everyone I talked with was in the same boat: longing for connection, meaning, depth, but settling for busy.

I am a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, neighbor, writer, and I know all too well that settling feeling. But over the course of the last few years, I’ve learned a way to live, marked by grace, love, rest, and play. And it’s changing everything.

Present Over Perfect is an invitation to this journey that changed my life. I’ll walk this path with you, a path away from frantic pushing and proving, and toward your essential self, the one you were created to be before you began proving and earning for your worth.

Written in Shauna’s warm and vulnerable style, this collection of essays focuses on the most important transformation in her life, and maybe yours too: leaving behind busyness and frantic living and rediscovering the person you were made to be. Present Over Perfect is a hand reaching out, pulling you free from the constant pressure to perform faster, push harder, and produce more, all while maintaining an exhausting image of perfection.

Shauna offers an honest account of what led her to begin this journey, and a compelling vision for an entirely new way to live: soaked in grace, rest, silence, simplicity, prayer, and connection with the people that matter most to us.

In these pages, you’ll be invited to consider the landscape of your own life, and what it might look like to leave behind the pressure to be perfect and begin the life-changing practice of simply being present, in the middle of the mess and the ordinariness of life.

I read another book by Shauna called Bread & Wine. I remember that I liked the book, so I was hopeful I would like other books by her. She is a Christian/religious author and I was a bit hesitant going into this because I wanted to love it, but not being religious myself, I wasn’t sure if it would be too preachy for my liking.

It was just ok. I felt like I “got it” after the first couple chapters. Be present over trying to make your life perfect. Seems obvious to me. After I understood the premise and where she was coming from, I just didn’t connect with the religious aspects of the book. I have many friends who LOVE this book and we are reading/studying it in a mom’s group that I am in (which I am the only non-religious person in the group that attends; I go for the friends and socialization for myself and Alex).

All I can say is that it didn’t resonate with me. I don’t feel like I’m the target market for this book. But I think the idea was a good one. Too many of us focus on being perfect in life or making sure everyone sees that you are perfect on the outside even if you are falling apart on the inside. Social media is a beast sometimes. But you may love it and if the description sounds good to you, read it!

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Next up is Love Warrior. I liked Glennon’s other book, Carry On, Warrior and I was so excited to read this. She’s so real in the way she writes that makes you just want to be open and honest with everyone you come into contact with. Here’s a bit about this book.

Just when Glennon Doyle Melton was beginning to feel she had it all figured out―three happy children, a doting spouse, and a writing career so successful that her first book catapulted to the top of the New York Times bestseller list―her husband revealed his infidelity and she was forced to realize that nothing was as it seemed. A recovering alcoholic and bulimic, Glennon found that rock bottom was a familiar place. In the midst of crisis, she knew to hold on to what she discovered in recovery: that her deepest pain has always held within it an invitation to a richer life.

Love Warrior is the story of one marriage, but it is also the story of the healing that is possible for any of us when we refuse to settle for good enough and begin to face pain and love head-on. This astonishing memoir reveals how our ideals of masculinity and femininity can make it impossible for a man and a woman to truly know one another—and it captures the beauty that unfolds when one couple commits to unlearning everything they’ve been taught so that they can finally, after thirteen years of marriage, commit to living true—true to themselves and to each other.

Love Warrior is a gorgeous and inspiring account of how we are born to be warriors: strong, powerful, and brave; able to confront the pain and claim the love that exists for us all. This chronicle of a beautiful, brutal journey speaks to anyone who yearns for deeper, truer relationships and a more abundant, authentic life.

I wanted to love this. And I don’t know why I didn’t. She was a strong female, she found herself during this book, but she just seemed kind of whiny about everything throughout the book. She struggled with being happy in her marriage and I just felt like she had given up at times and didn’t really fight for her kids and family. I think it had a good ending. It wasn’t fixed (which things aren’t always “fixed” by the end of a book, but there were things in place to help them through. Knowing now what I found out about her life shortly after I finished this book (she fell in love with soccer player Abby Wambach), many of the steps they took and issues she had in the book made more sense. I felt myself saying “duh” or “of course…this all makes sense now” after the news came out.

I am happy that she is happy and it seems that her family is happy as well. They have found a way to exist together. I would definitely read her next book if it was about how all of this transpired and how her family found a new normal. If you like Glennon, you’ll probably enjoy this book.

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Finally, we have The Grownup. I’ve enjoyed Gillian’s other books and when I saw this was free at the library kindle at the time, I read it. It is a short story and it was different than the other things she wrote. Here’s a bit about it.

A canny young woman is struggling to survive by perpetrating various levels of mostly harmless fraud. On a rainy April morning, she is reading auras at Spiritual Palms when Susan Burke walks in. A keen observer of human behavior, our unnamed narrator immediately diagnoses beautiful, rich Susan as an unhappy woman eager to give her lovely life a drama injection. However, when the “psychic” visits the eerie Victorian home that has been the source of Susan’s terror and grief, she realizes she may not have to pretend to believe in ghosts anymore. Miles, Susan’s teenage stepson, doesn’t help matters with his disturbing manner and grisly imagination. The three are soon locked in a chilling battle to discover where the evil truly lurks and what, if anything, can be done to escape it.

I believe the reason I didn’t love this is because I thought it ended much too soon. I wanted to know more about the characters and what happened after the ending. It was a bit abrupt (“I only have this many words and must finish this book NOW” feeling) and I felt like it ended strangely. Maybe it was supposed to be that way. I just wasn’t sure if it was actually the end. I felt like there had to be more to it. It was a bit creepy and weird, just her style. If you like Flynn’s books, you’ll probably enjoy this. It’s a really quick read.

So there you have it friends. A bunch of so-so books in my mind. I didn’t feel like I wanted to write individual posts for any of them. This seemed like a good compromise.

Happy reading.

andi

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Lizzy Charles Books

Posted on February 26, 2017February 27, 2017 by Andi

A fairly short time ago I met this wonderful lady, Lizzy. When I met her, I knew instantly that I wanted to be friends with her. We started chatting and soon started hanging out. When I found out she was an author, I immediately went online to purchase all of her books. Funny thing, I already had 2/3 on my kindle and didn’t realize it. I have now finished all three of her books (she’s currently working on a fourth) and I have loved them all!

A bit about each of her books is below.

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EFFORTLESS WITH YOU is the story of Lucy, a girl who needs an attitude adjustment, and Justin, the boy who just might give it to her.

School is out and Lucy is ready for the perfect summer: lazy days at the pool, invitations to the most exclusive parties, and romantic dates with her hot new boyfriend. That is, until she lands in trouble one too many times and her parents issue the ultimate punishment: a summer job. Suddenly, the summer can’t end fast enough.

To make matters worse, the job is painting houses with Justin, the most popular, egotistical guy in school. Spending all summer with Justin might be other girls’ dreams, but definitely not Lucy’s. After all, Justin is cocky, annoying, and a jerk. So what if he’s the most beautiful jerk Lucy’s ever seen? Or that his grin makes her forget she’s mad at the world? Or that maybe, just maybe, there’s more to Justin than everyone thinks. Only one thing is certain: it won’t be the summer she wanted, but it might be exactly the one she needs.

I am not usually one who likes young adult reads, but this one stole my heart. It was such a sweet, realistic story. An unlikely couple added such a fun spin on the story. Justin and Lucy’s banter was great and I could picture them throughout the book. I liked that they had ups and downs (they are in high school, so their relationship is bound to have some imperfect times). The character’s families were likable and I think it’s challenging to connect even with small characters.

After I finished this book, I immediately picked up the sequel to see how Justin and Lucy would handle the next challenges thrown at them.

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Popularity isn’t everything it’s cracked up to be. Justin Marshall knows this better than most. For the captain of the basketball team, small business owner, and son of Minnesota’s next governor, life can get pretty overwhelming. But Justin can handle anything as long as he has Lucy, the girl who fell for the man he’s trying to be.

But for Justin and Lucy, finding time together proves challenging. Stolen kisses and whispered promises just aren’t enough. That is, until scandalous photos of the couple are leaked to a press intent on creating a juicy scandal during Justin’s dad’s gubernatorial campaign. And when Lucy becomes fair play for the tabloids and gossip pages, Justin does the only thing he can to protect her: he breaks her heart.

For Lucy, junior year is everything she hoped it would be: new friends, second chances, and a boyfriend she can’t stop kissing. That is, until the boy she’s pretty sure she loves chooses the life his family wants for him, over her.

Now it’s up to Lucy to teach him what it really means to have everything. Because for Justin, being who everyone needs him to be just might cost him the one person he can’t live without.

This duet, Perfectly Messy, picked up where the last one left off and it did it seamlessly. Lizzy did such a great job reminding us why we loved these characters from the first book. I loved reading all the new twists and turns these kids got into again. High schoolers are so dramatic at times.

I was sad to say goodbye to these characters, but I liked that Lizzy didn’t leave us hanging too much or asking too many questions about their future. I like when a book wraps up nicely and leaves me satisfied with the ending.

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Everything is waiting in Paris for Autumn—her new home, her mom, the Louvre, and a life where she can experience art, and not just look at it. But to get there, she’ll have to survive the summer in the least colorful place she can imagine — her father’s Oklahoma cattle ranch.

Autumn finds the perfect summer distraction in Colt, the one cowboy hotter than the July sun. But Colt is her father’s ranch hand, and he won’t go for the Manhattan-style fling that she’s used to. The closer they become, the more she questions which side of the ocean she belongs.

Then her father reveals an unforgivable secret, and Autumn’s illusions shatter. Will the secret destroy everything? Or could Oklahoma hold the greatest masterpiece of all—a love that could mend her heart?

I literally finished Bring the Rain this morning. I couldn’t fall back asleep this morning and I was dying to know what would happen, so I opened up my Kindle and waited for Lizzy to draw me in again. I flew through this book and I’m not surprised. Lizzy has a way of drawing you into her books and really feeling like you are there. She makes you connect with the characters in a way that you almost feel like you know them.

Autumn was almost a little unlikable at first with her New York attitude. But the ranch put her in her place and reminded her of the things she loved about it when she lived there.

This was a touching story and I loved the way she wrote about touchy subjects in a way that could prompt a good discussion with young adult teens. Ultimately, I loved that Autumn realized that she did need her parents in different ways and was able to decide what was right for her. Not all teens get that opportunity, but this was a case where I think it worked out for the situation.

Lizzy isn’t just a great friend of mine, but I respect her as an author and love her work. She wears so many hats at home, juggles a career and still finds time to entertain her fans by doing something she loves.

I highly recommend you check out her books if you’re looking for a fun read that will make you want to have a coffee date with the author (or hang out at the gym which is our typical hangout).

Happy reading, friends!

andi

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It’s Okay to Laugh

Posted on February 17, 2017February 16, 2017 by Andi

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This book was downright amazing. Here’s what the book is about; brace yourself.

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Twenty-seven-year-old Nora McInerny Purmort bounced from boyfriend to dopey “boyfriend” until she met Aaron—a charismatic art director and comic-book nerd who once made Nora laugh so hard she pulled a muscle. When Aaron was diagnosed with a rare form of brain cancer, they refused to let it limit their love. They got engaged on Aaron’s hospital bed and had a baby boy while he was on chemo. In the period that followed, Nora and Aaron packed fifty years of marriage into the three they got, spending their time on what really matters: Buffy the Vampire Slayer, each other, and Beyoncé. A few months later, Aaron died in Nora’s arms. The obituary they wrote during Aaron’s hospice care revealing his true identity as Spider-Man touched the nation. With It’s Okay to Laugh, Nora puts a young, fresh twist on the subjects of mortality and resilience. What does it actually mean to live your “one wild and precious life” to the fullest? How can a joyful marriage contain more sickness than health? How do you keep going when life kicks you in the junk? In this deeply felt and deeply funny memoir, Nora gives her readers a true gift—permission to struggle, permission to laugh, permission to tell the truth and know that everything will be okay. It’s Okay to Laugh is a love letter to life, in all its messy glory; it reads like a conversation with a close friend, and leaves a trail of glitter in its wake.

This book is for people who have been through some shit.

This is for people who aren’t sure if they’re saying or doing the right thing (you’re not, but nobody is). This is for people who had their life turned upside down and just learned to live that way. For people who have laughed at a funeral or cried in a grocery store. This is for everyone who wondered what exactly they’re supposed to be doing with their one wild and precious life. I don’t actually have the answer, but if you find out, will you text me?

It was funny, sad, emotional, real, heartbreaking, relatable and empowering. Nora is such an amazing writer. I listened to this book and I LOVED hearing her voice read the book. It impacted me way more than if I had read it with my own internal voice. Nora has a way of writing that makes you feel everything she says. I have been an avid follower of her on social media and her podcast. Her philanthropy is inspiring and her resilience to what life has handed her is so admirable while being humorous.

To top this off, she is the sister of the woman I wrote about yesterday!

I highly recommend this book. Be prepared to be a little depressed, but rest assured, you’ll also get some good laughs in, too.

andi

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